Therapy specialism
Relationships ending
The ending of a relationship, whether a romantic partnership, a friendship, a family bond, or a marriage, can be one of the most painful and disorienting experiences we go through. Therapy can offer a space to grieve, make sense of what happened, and find your footing again.
Loss that isn't always recognised
When a relationship ends, the grief can be profound, yet it is often minimised or misunderstood by those around us. There may be no funeral, no formal acknowledgement, and yet the loss can feel total: of a person, a future, a version of yourself, a home, a family structure, or a sense of belonging.
Whether the ending was your choice, someone else's, or a gradual unravelling, the feelings that follow can be complex and contradictory. Grief and relief, anger and longing, clarity and confusion. All of these are valid, and all of them deserve space.
Therapy offers a place to sit with those feelings without rushing through them, and to begin to understand what this loss means for you, not just what you've lost, but who you are becoming in its wake.
Areas I can help with
Romantic breakups and divorce
The end of a romantic relationship or marriage can shake the foundations of your life. Whether the split was sudden or long anticipated, therapy can help you process the grief, navigate the practical upheaval, and begin to rebuild.
Separation and co-parenting
When children are involved, separation brings its own particular challenges. Therapy can support you in managing the emotional weight of co-parenting, holding your own needs alongside your children's, and finding a new way of relating.
Estrangement from family
Estrangement, whether chosen or imposed, can carry a particular kind of grief. There is often no shared understanding, and no easy resolution. Therapy can help you make sense of what happened and find a way to live with the status quo.
Grief and loss within relationships
Sometimes a relationship doesn't end entirely, but something within it is lost. Trust, intimacy, a shared vision of the future. This kind of grief can be hard to name, but it is real, and it deserves attention.
The end of friendships
Friendships can end quietly or dramatically, and the loss can be surprisingly deep. Therapy can offer space to grieve a friendship, understand what it meant to you, and explore what you want from connection going forward.
Navigating life after a relationship ends
The practical and emotional landscape after a relationship ends can feel overwhelming. Therapy can help you find your feet, manage loneliness, rebuild routines, and reconnect with what matters to you.
Identity after loss of a relationship
Relationships shape who we are. When one ends, it can leave us asking: who am I now? Therapy can support you in exploring your sense of self beyond the relationship, and in building a life that feels genuinely yours.
Anticipatory grief
Sometimes we begin to grieve a relationship before it has fully ended. A terminal diagnosis, or a decision already made casts its shadow in the present. Anticipatory grief is an acknowledgement of the losses happening now and in the future and therapy can offer a space to hold it.
“Grief is the price we pay for love.”
— Colin Murray Parkes
How I work
I work in an integrative and existential way, which means I draw on a range of therapeutic approaches while keeping your unique experience at the centre. I don't believe there is a single right way to grieve or to move through loss and I won't try to rush you towards acceptance or resolution before you're ready.
What I offer is a consistent, non-judgmental space where you can bring the full complexity of what you're feeling, including the parts that feel shameful, contradictory, or hard to admit. Together, we can explore what this ending means for you, and what you want to carry forward.
Sessions are available in person in South East London and online via a secure video platform.
Ready to talk?
If you're going through the ending of a relationship and would like some support, feel free to get in touch to arrange an initial conversation.